Wordless Wednesday………..

This greated me in the garden this morning and has made me change my mind over something…..I was due to meet a couple of old friends for lunch today before work but was going to cancel because i now have an interview with the SFO over something that happened 10 years ago at work…..But sod it….tomorrow can wait and so can the worry i am off to Lunch and i am going to enjoy…especially as i am not paying……Good Times…. ;0)

This Proves Blokes are worse than Girls……

Loads of strange stuff is going on and I can’t write about it on here as it’s a subject of an investigation at work…….but I did learn something of interest and something that has upset and frightened me yesterday from my line manage.

Like most people I have a facebook account, don’t use it much but have it as a way of keeping in touch with my daughters some important friends and some mates from my days in the Royal Navy. I have a friend on there that I used to work with years ago and it just happens that she is married to my line manager.
Anyway yesterday my line manager asked some odd questions about the people who comment on my blip (have moved my blip now to somewhere more private as I was fed up with comments from work people also done the same with my twitter account and made that private these people have not sussed this out yet and keep asking when i will publish a blip again so they had take the Mickey) I thought this was odd and more questions followed so I asked if he was checking up in me and he admitted that he was. He does not have a facebook account as he does not see the need for one but he does see the need to find out what I am doing who I speak too etc.
As you can imagine this has upset me and I have removed his wife from my friends, at the weekend I removed everyone from work from there too. At this rate I will be a Billy no mates……
But I just don’t understand why he was so interested in me and what I do who I talk to etc, I think part of the problem is that every bloke at work is pre occupied with trying to find out if I have a girlfriend of not…..let’s just face it I am never going to tell you lot as you’re not part of my life and don’t need to know……It all just goes to prove that blokes are worse than girls….You can talk to girls at work about anything just for a chat how are you etc, but blokes its only football and girls and its getting so boring……..
and they love to talk loudly about subjects that they know will upset you……

Strange day am i being watched or am i paranoid…………

I have had this strange feeling today, at first I shrugged it off and thought nothing of it but as the day has gone on things have got worse….I awoke this morning to find a note on the door mat from the ex demanding to know whether my daughter was staying with me this weekend….(She is and it was arranged ages ago) Then I started to receive text messages and emails asking the same…I should point out that this was all sorted out at the beginning of the week and my daughter was going to stay with a friend on Friday night and me on Saturday night. However the friend was ill so I received a phone call to say Dad can I stay Friday please. No problem I am out but she is old enough to look after herself and has a much better idea on how the TV etc works…..
I did not respond to texts emails as I was seeing my daughter this evening to collect a bag from her and give her a key on her way home from college and as she would be late home and miss her tea I took her to McDonalds to feed her.
On the way home I felt I was being followed and spotted a car that I recognized as being the ex’s car driving around where I live. Since being home I have popped my head out of the door and the car is sat there and my house is being watched. Not sure why this is as it all seems very tedious to me and pointless. In her last email she has asked to see inside my house to make sure that it is fit for my daughter to stay in. I have ignored this request as she has stayed here many times and there has never been a problem.
So I will go about what I have to do tomorrow and have a good time and wish whoever is following me good luck and can’t wait to see how far you get…..but I bet you never find out where I am going……

CSA vs the Taxman………..They are both after me……He comes the park bench……

I have had a very busy few weeks with work etc taking a lot of my time and also some good times too and the Blues have had a dream start to the season losing 1 of the first 6 games and that’s been brilliant but the big test is this Saturday with Worcester at home.

But the real hassle in my life has come from the CSA and the Taxman, first the Taxman has decided that I owe over £5,000 and this has built up over the last 2/3 years as I am PAYE I don’t understand. Well I am pleased that I don’t understand because when I try at talk to the Taxman he does not understand either. I pay tax for a car that I returned two years ago. My P11D does not show the car yet the Taxman wants me to pay tax, but he doesn’t know why. I ask him to explain if I am PAYE how come I owe so much but he can’t explain that one either. Pattern forming and he is most unhelpful. I have resorted to writing to ask for an explanation as it does not work on the phone, they blame my employer but my employer returned the necessary forms without a car yet the taxman says I have a car. I asked the taxman to speak to DVLA as I am not allowed to drive due to ill health. But the taxman said that is not a valid reason not to have a company car. So the letters go to and forth and they demand money I don’t have.

Now the CSA has joined in and my ex went to them as I missed a payment due to the fact she changed her name I wasn’t told and my bank couldn’t apply the funds so sent them back so I sent a cheque and due to the fact my crystal ball was broken I got the wrong name. Now I was paying 20 percent of my take home after tax as per the CSA website and all was ok, but now the CSA are involved they have decided to need to pay a lot more and the CSA are a law unto themselves I can tell you. I am now at the stage that I will have to give up work as I can’t afford to go to work all because some civil servant can’t understand maths. I explained that I have to pay high travel costs for work etc and asked for this to be taken into consideration and they said no. I then said if that’s the case I would have to leave work and give up my house etc and move to the park bench. Their reply was that’s fine with us as you won’t be able to make any payments. I don’t get that surely some money is better than non but I guess the CSA know best. I now have to pay over a third of what I take home and I believe this is way too high and surely I should pay towards my daughters having a decent standard of living as they are 13 and 16 and not for their mother to work part time and fund a 4 bedroom house while i live on a park bench.

I have a few ideas on the go at the moment that could help me and I could end up paying a more respectable amount but I can’t say anything at the moment. But I would like to say a special thank you to a special friend who has been a great help to me these last few weeks…You know who you are and thank you again………..